Traditionally, vows are solemn and predetermined making them not very personal or romantic. They are about as standard as the Nigerian pledge and Psalm 23, your guests can almost recite them with you.
“I, ____, take you, ____, to be my (husband/wife). I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life. I, ____, take you, ____, as my lawful (husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward for better, for worse; for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health, ‘til death do us part.”
But your wedding is all about you and your significant other, so why not take a few minutes to say a few words right from your heart and add your special touch to your vows? Bring out the true emotions in the day; reminisce with your lover on your good times and bad; share the testimony of your love with your friends, families and well-wishers. It doesn’t have to be long, or perfect literature; just express yourself honestly and you and your partner will appreciate and remember it all through life.
We all still remember when William Bradley (Brad) Pitt lightheartedly promised Jennifer Aniston that he “would always split the difference on the thermostat”, and she in return promised to always make his “favourite banana milk shake” before they both simultaneously pledged, “With this ring, I thee wed, so that all the world may know I love you”. Okay, maybe that wasn’t the most prosperous marriage but we still remember their very personal, heartfelt vows today.
Below are two unique, inspired vows from a movie and a TV show. Let’s get those creative juices flowing!
1. Hugh Grant as Paul Morgan in “Did You Hear About the Morgans?”
“I promise never to take you for granted or utter a word unkind,
to never allow my affections to be recanted or stop marveling at
To also marvel at your warmth, your wit, your refusal to
condone animal slaughter,
your wisdom, your laugh, your inability to boil water.
To be your best friend for the rest of your life,
And to the thank the God you’re not sure about for fooling you into being my wife.”
It’s short. It’s cute. It’s funny. It’s sincere. And it even rhymes!
2. Isiah Washington as Preston Burke in the “Grey’s Anatomy” Season 3 Finale.
“Cristina, I could promise to hold you and to cherish you, I could promise to be there in sickness and in health.
I could say ’till death do us part.
But I won’t.
Those vows are for optimistic couples.
The ones full of hope.
And I do not stand here, on my wedding day, optimistic or full of
I am not optimistic, I am not hopeful.
I am sure. I am steady, and I know.
I am a heart man: I take them apart, I put them back together.
I hold then in my hands.
I am a heart man.
So this, I am sure.
You are my partner, my lover, my very best friend.
My heart, my heart beats for you.
And on this day, the day of my wedding, I promise you this: I promise to lay my heart in the palm of your hand.
I promise you ME.”
Can I hear an AMEN? Who doesn’t love a confident man?
Whether you chose to go the funny, rhyming route or the route of tear-jerking sincerity, remind the world and your chosen one how you feel, reaffirm your intentions and your confidence in your decision. Be sweet, be honest, be you.